RSVP

The pressure of the RSVP process is crazy. Sometimes it really makes you want to scream. This part of the process for any Bride is stressful. Especially a budget savvy bride.  You send the invites out and you address them very carefully. Hoping no one crosses the line. And you get one back and they've included an extra body on to their count. What in God's Name do you do?

I've read many sources. Even talked with my Mom. She's had some "Oh I forgot to invite" moments herself. Just a week before the RSVP date I sent out another invite for two more people that she forgot to add to her list.

This is what the knot.com said about the "Plus One" option.

Q. Do we have to invite every guest with a date or a “plus-one”? 

A. No, you don't have to. If a guest isn't married or in a serious relationship, it's perfectly acceptable to invite them solo. Most guests will understand that without “and Guest” or another name on the invitation means they aren't invited with a plus-one. While it's always nice to invite everyone with a guest, if you're having a small wedding, your family and friends should understand your reasoning. What to do if a guest RSVPs for two? Call them up and explain that you're having an intimate wedding and, unfortunately, you were not able to invite everyone with a guest. But if you realize that nearly everyone will be coupled up, extend a plus-one invitation to your few single friends and family.

Read more: Top 10 Wedding Invitation Etiquette Q&As - Wedding Planning - Wedding Invitations + Stationery http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/wedding-invitations-etiquette.aspx#ixzz2QP5LToWM

I've read a lot of responses some professional some not, but most of them all agree. Adding a guest to your invite and it is only address to you is rude. And so is not having an open bar for your guest.  When the invitations go out there should be no reason to send more out, but if you have a willing party to pay for the extra how do you say no. You don't. Well, at least I didn't. I just kept a detailed list of each person added and pray they don't all show up. LOL No really, it's ok. I don't worry about it much. God knows, things always work out. 

My advise to any budget Bride out there is don't sweat it. Take a deep breath, set a FINAL RSVP date for your FI, Mother, Father.. whoever and when the date comes sit with it. You're the Bride, don't go Bridezilla on them, just let them know that this is it. You have other things to do that require your final numbers and waiting to the last moment to have them is not going to work for you. 

Like I said, the RSVP process is not fun. Just stay calm. It will resolve itself on it's on. Just believe. 

Sweet Talk & Love.