Yes, Yes, the guest list. You wouldn't think anything would be so important. Well it is. It's basically your budget! Real talk... If you can't afford 150 guess at say $40 each, you need to reconsider who your inviting.
Trust me I had to do it. Every bride has to do it. The reality that your not Kim Kardashian and you can't have 500 people at your wedding and celebration. It's a hard reality, but you can do it. I am sure once you settle down you realize that $6000 is a lot to consider if your footing the bill yourself. Coming up with $6000 plus all the other things you need is a lot of pressure to assume. So Breath! Now get organize. Find places that will give you a discount for having weddings on a Wednesday, Friday or Sunday. Even a holiday. I know someone who got married on the 4th of July. Everything was 50% off! Do your homework. Look for places that include the cake and the catering. That have vendors that have relationships with Djs or the Linens lady. Stay away from Wedding Season and plan ahead. Book early as they say. You'll benefit from it later. Don't be afraid to ask for help. There are plenty of people in the family that want to.
Thank God for a few individuals in my family. We don't have to do this alone.
These ideas are only my opinion. I am sure there are plenty others you could consider. I appreciate the you listening and hearing what I have to say. This subject is very touchy for some folks. Remember this is your wedding. It's your choice what you want to do. Those who want to share it with you will come no matter what. You just can't invite everyone.
The Ground Rules
You need to come up with some ground rules. You're going to have single, married, married with children and other guest to consider. So making up rules like only the wedding party and immediate family members are invited. Or only the wedding party can have guest. You have to make them so your list doesn't get out of hand. The Guest List can grow in a matter of minutes and ground rules keeps you honest.
Are the Present in your life?
Your not close to everyone in your family. I know it's hard to contend with, but there is no need on sugar coat it. Stick with the facts. If you've been out of contact with them for more than 2 years you should really think about all the other people in your life that are currently and present in your life today. Think about it. You haven't talked on the phone, sent a card, communicated on email for 2 years and now your going to send them an invite to your wedding. I really think there is someone currently in your life that's been there when you've needed them most that you should invite.
Remember it's your dime
You're paying for this. If someone else is remember their bank account. BE KIND! As my Fiance' keeps reminding me, what do we get out of this? What will you get out of spending thousands of dollars on people that you most likely will never ever see again or you don't even know. What's the point in that?
At the end of the day... if you've got to look at your list 50 million times to fine tune it, than do it. Because as I've learn during our 15 month engagement, families fall out over the smallest thing. You loose 5 or 10 people because of it. I've even had 4 people in one family move out of state. Now don't get me wrong I am sad that they won't be there, but I just gained some lead way on my budget. Hooray!
Bottom line is no matter how you look at it, It is about your money!!! At the end of this process you're going to have money going out your ears. So spend it wisely.
Sweet Talk & Love
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